Executive Communication Mistakes to Avoid: How Leaders Lose Their Audience (Executive Comms Series 3/9)

Strong communication builds trust, credibility, and alignment. Poor communication does the opposite - it confuses, frustrates, and erodes confidence in a leader. Many executives underestimate how small speech habits, unclear framing, or over-talking can quietly undermine their presence.

Here are the most common pitfalls to avoid in executive communication - and what to do instead.

1. Vague or Unclear Communication.  Senior leaders don’t have time to guess what you mean. Passive statements like “We might need to adjust some processes” leave others wondering: which processes, how much, and by when? 

Instead: Be specific. “We need to update the vendor onboarding process to cut approval time from three weeks to one.” Precision creates confidence.

2. Over-Talking and Losing the Point.  Long-winded updates bury the lead and lose your audience. The more detail you share, the harder it is for others to discern what matters. 

Instead: Use the bottom-line-first approach. Start with the headline, then explain if needed. Think: Answer → Context → Detail.  Example: Instead of saying, “We’ve been exploring different vendors for the past six weeks, meeting with four different firms, evaluating costs and implementation timelines…” say, “We recommend Vendor A — it’s the fastest to implement and most cost-effective. Here’s why.”

3. Dodging the Question.  One of the fastest ways to erode credibility is to talk around a question without answering it. Executives notice when you dance instead of deliver.

Instead: Acknowledge the question and respond directly. If you do not know, say so — and commit to following up. Confidence comes from honesty, not from having every answer.

4. Making Things More Complex Than They Are.  Complexity does not make you sound smarter; it makes you harder to follow. Leaders who restart from the beginning or pile on explanations risk confusing everyone.

Instead: Simplify. Structure your response in chunks (e.g., “There are two risks and one opportunity”). Guide people step by step, rather than swirling them in detail.

5. Interrupting or Talking Over Others. Cutting people off signals impatience and undermines trust. Even if unintentional, it conveys that you value your voice more than theirs.

Instead: Pause, listen, and build. A powerful phrase is: “I’d like to build on what Sarah just said…” It shows respect while reinforcing your point.

6. Weakening Your Words.  Seemingly small words and habits can undercut your authority. Common culprits include:

·      “Just” – Makes your point feel small or tentative (“I’m just checking in”). → Say: “I’m checking in.”

·       “Actually” – Implies surprise that you have something worth saying (“I actually have a question”). → Say: “I have a question.”

·      “Kind of / A little bit” – Softens your conviction (“I kind of think…”). → Say: “I think…”

·      “I’m sorry” (as filler) – Over-apologizing diminishes authority (“Sorry to bother you”). → Say: “I’d like to discuss…”

·      “Am I making sense?” – Signals self-doubt. → Say: “How does that land with you?”

·      Uptalk – Ending statements like questions makes you sound uncertain. → Use a steady tone.

Instead: Drop qualifiers and speak directly. Leaders who use clear, confident phrasing project authority and make it easier for others to follow their lead.

Communication mistakes do not just distract — they diminish executive presence. Vague language, rambling, dodging, or weak phrasing can cause others to lose confidence in your message. The best leaders avoid these traps by being clear, concise, and confident — and by creating space for others to contribute.

Reflection Question: Which of these habits do you most need to unlearn, and what will you practice instead to strengthen your communication?  Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you!

Quote of the Day: “Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” – Plato

The next blog in this series 4/9 will focus on presentation formats to enhance your communication

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to sharpen their executive communication skills. Contact me to explore this topic further.

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Executive Communication: Fundamentals that Matter Most (Executive Comms Series 2/9)

Great leaders are not only remembered for what they achieved but for how they communicated. The ability to share ideas clearly, inspire confidence, and align others is a hallmark of executive presence. Yet many leaders struggle here — they bury the lead, overwhelm with detail, or miss the subtle cues in the room.

Strong executive communication rests on a few timeless fundamentals. Mastering these does not just make you a better speaker; it makes you a more trusted leader.

Fundamentals that matter most:

1. Set a Vision That Inspires Confidence.  Senior executives want more than updates - they want to know where you are headed. A compelling vision communicates the “north star” and helps others believe in you. Even when presenting a pilot project or early-stage initiative, frame it in terms of future impact: “Here’s what success would unlock for us, and how it connects to the bigger strategy.”  When people hear vision, they feel momentum. When they hear only details, they wonder what it all means.

2. Be Strategic - Connect to the Bigger Picture.  Executives sit at the intersection of competing priorities. If you cannot connect your work to the broader strategy, it risks being dismissed as tactical.  Always ask yourself: How does this affect the business as a whole? What does this mean for revenue, risk, efficiency, or growth?  For example, do not just say, “We’re updating the vendor system.” Instead: “By updating the vendor system, we’ll reduce processing time by 30%, which frees up capital for growth initiatives.”  The difference between noise and impact is strategic framing.

3. Adjust to Your Audience.  Great communicators tailor their message. The same idea should sound different when speaking to a board member, a technical peer, or a cross-functional team.

Think of it like levels of explanation:

• To a CEO: share the headline, business impact, and key decision.

• To a technical peer: add details, risks, and interdependencies.

• To a broader team: emphasize relevance, benefits, and what changes for them.

Rebecca Knight writes in HBR that every workplace conversation has both the explicit discussion (the words) and the tacit one (the unspoken reactions). Reading the room — noticing body language, tone, and energy — is as important as delivering the content.

4: Blend Data with Story.  Data creates credibility. Stories create memorability. You need both.

Executives remember numbers that tie to outcomes, but stories of customer impact, employee success, or lessons learned move them. For example: “Retention rose 8%” is good. “Retention rose 8% — that’s 5,000 more families staying with our service” is better.  When you blend quantitative with qualitative, you engage both logic and emotion — the two engines of decision-making.

5. Listen as Much as You Speak.  Executive communication is not only about the message you deliver — it’s also about the space you create.

• Ask open-ended questions (“What risks do you see?”).

• Build on others’ ideas (“I like your point, and I’ll add…”).

• Notice who hasn’t spoken and draw them in.

• Regulate how much airtime you’re taking.

This is how communication becomes a leadership tool for alignment rather than just transmission.

6. Navigate Questions with Presence. Questions are not hurdles — they are opportunities to show confidence. Slow down, listen fully, and respond without defensiveness. Acknowledge the value of the question, then connect your answer back to the bigger picture. Leaders are judged less on having every answer, and more on how they carry themselves under pressure.

Executive communication is not a “soft skill” — it’s a leadership skill. When you set vision, connect to strategy, adjust to your audience, blend data with story, listen actively, and navigate questions with presence, you demonstrate credibility and build trust. The fundamentals may sound simple, but they are what separate leaders who get heard from those who get overlooked.

Reflection Question: Which of these fundamentals comes most naturally to you — and which one, if mastered, would elevate your executive presence the most?  Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you!

Quote of the Day: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw

The next blog in this series 3/9 will focus on common communication mistakes to avoid. 

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to sharpen their executive communication skills. Contact me to explore this topic further.

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Executive Communications: Speaking with Clarity, Confidence, and Impact (Executive Comms Series 1/9)

At the executive level, communication is leadership. It’s how you inspire confidence in the boardroom, align peers across the C-suite, and guide your team through complexity and change. Yet too many leaders underestimate its power — or reduce it to polished presentations. In reality, executive communication is one of the most critical and underrated skills for leaders, as it shapes how others perceive their competence, credibility, and readiness for greater responsibility.

Strong executive communication isn’t about being rehearsed; it’s about being clear, concise, structured, and human. At the highest levels, people do not have time to sift through ambiguity or wait for you to “get to the point.” They want to know: What’s the headline? What are the options? What do you recommend? And how will this impact the business? Leaders who answer those questions directly and authentically don’t just communicate - they influence outcomes.

Four Principles for Executive Communication

1. Clarity.  Start with your purpose or goal. What do you want the listener to walk away with? Senior executives process a constant flow of information - if you do not lead with clarity, your message will get lost. Think in headlines, not paragraphs.

Instead of: “We’ve been running into some inefficiencies with the vendor, and we’ve looked at several options, and here’s where we’re leaning…”
Try: “We’ve narrowed vendors to three options — here’s our recommendation and why.”

Of course, you want to keep in mind who your audience is and what they are seeking. If context is essential, make that brief, then delve into options and recommendations.

Structure matters. Neuroscience shows our brains like to receive information in chunks. Label your folders first (e.g., three priorities, two risks, one recommendation) before explaining. Transition with precision so the audience knows where you are. E.g., “Before moving on to my second point, any questions you might have?” If people can repeat two out of three of your points, you’ve succeeded.

2. Conciseness.  Concise does not mean oversimplified; it means cutting through noise. Avoid burying the lead or drowning in detail. Lead with the answer, then layer in context if asked or needed.

Example: “The pilot increased customer retention by 8%. To scale, we need additional resources. Here are the three scenarios of our growth path…”. This shows strategic thinking by anticipating the best, middle, and least desirable paths.

Concise leaders respect others’ time and signal confidence in their message.

3. Collaboration.  Executive communication is not a monologue — it’s a conversation. The best leaders create space for dialogue, pause to consider reactions, and invite others in. Ask clarifying questions like: “Would you like me to share the context or jump into the recommendation?”  This allows others to co-create the outcome and fosters alignment.

4. Connection.  Do not just transmit information - build rapport. Leaders who connect authentically stand out in boardrooms often filled with data-heavy slides. Be human. Start with appreciation. Share a quick acknowledgment or observation. Comment in a Slack thread to reinforce alignment. As Maya Angelou said, “People will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

Additional Practices That Elevate Executive Communication

·       Frame and Reframe. Gregory Bateson’s concept of framing highlights how you say something often shapes its impact more than what you say. A “frame” signals how others should interpret the conversation. For example: “I’d like to check alignment on process” sets the frame as collaborative, not corrective. Reframing is equally powerful when dynamics shift: For instance, “Instead of seeing this as a setback, let’s view it as feedback on what’s working and what isn’t” turns frustration into learning. Or: “This isn’t about assigning blame - it’s about uncovering what will help us succeed next time” moves the tone from defensive to forward-looking.

·       Provide Context.  Senior leaders juggle countless priorities - they will not always remember the details of past discussions. Anchor them quickly:  “As we agreed last month…” or “This builds on the pilot we launched last quarter.”  Context helps them connect the dots without having to dig.

Always link back to the bigger picture and bottom-line impact: “Here’s how this decision affects revenue, customer trust, and our long-term positioning.”  Context is not clutter - it’s a compass that shows why the issue matters now and where it leads next.

·       Command the Room. Strong leaders do not just dominate the conversation - they direct it. Set the pace and focus by managing Q&A with confidence: pause before answering, defer off-track details, and keep attention on outcomes. For example: “That’s an important point—let’s capture it for follow-up, and for now stay with the decision at hand.”  This signals control of the flow while respecting contributions.

Commanding the room also means knowing when to open the floor. A well-timed pause - “Let’s make sure others have space to weigh in” - shifts the tone from one-way authority to shared dialogue. The real mark of presence is not just steering discussion; it’s creating a space where others want to lean in.

Executive communication is not about being the loudest or most polished voice in the room. It’s about being clear, structured, concise, collaborative, and authentic. The leaders who excel at it make others’ jobs easier — they create clarity in complexity, surface decisions, and build alignment. That’s what makes them trusted voices at the table.

Reflection Question: How will you ensure your next executive communication leaves leaders confident in both you and your message?  Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you!

Quote of the Day: “The art of communication is the language of leadership.” – James Humes

The next blog in this series 2/9 will focus on communication essentials.

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to sharpen their executive communication skills. Contact me to explore this topic further.

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Building Trust and Credibility in Your First 90 Days (New Executive Series 4/4)

Trust and credibility are the cornerstones of effective leadership, and as a new executive, your first 90 days are critical for building both. Success isn’t achieved through grand gestures but through consistent actions demonstrating your competence, authenticity, and alignment with the organization’s goals. We’ll uncover why trust and credibility matter, how to establish them quickly, and the key steps to lay a strong foundation for lasting impact.

 Why Trust and Credibility Matter

1. Trust Unlocks Collaboration. Teams are more willing to share ideas, take risks, and work collaboratively when they trust their leader. According to Stephen M.R. Covey in The Speed of Trust, trust is a performance multiplier that accelerates results.

2. Credibility Drives Influence.  Without credibility, it’s difficult to lead effectively. When others see you as knowledgeable, reliable, and aligned with organizational values, your ability to influence decisions and drive change increases significantly.

3. First Impressions Last.  Research shows that people form lasting impressions quickly. The actions you take (or fail to take) in your early days will shape how others perceive you as a leader.

How to Build Trust and Credibility Quickly

1. Show Competence Through Results.  Early wins are essential for demonstrating your capability. Focus on high-impact areas where you can quickly make a positive difference. For example:

o   Identify a pressing issue and create a clear plan to address it.

o   Deliver on small, visible commitments to show you follow through.

2. Listen More Than You Speak.  Listening signals respect and helps you understand the organizational landscape. Ask thoughtful questions to learn about your team’s challenges, priorities, and aspirations. Key Questions to Ask:

o   “What’s working well that we should build on?”

o   “What challenges are holding the team back?”

o   “How can I best support you in your role?”

3. Be Transparent and Authentic.  Authenticity builds trust. Be honest about what you know, what you don’t, and your intentions. If you need more time to make a decision, say so.

4. Align Your Actions With Company Values. Understand the organization’s mission, vision, and values—and model them in your behavior. For instance:

o   If the company values collaboration, actively seek input from others.

o   If innovation is a priority, champion new ideas and celebrate creative thinking.

5. Communicate Consistently and Clearly.  Credibility grows when you communicate effectively. Share updates regularly, set clear expectations, and keep stakeholders informed. For example:

o   Provide a 30-60-90-day plan to outline your focus areas.

o   Hold regular check-ins with your team and key stakeholders.

6. Acknowledge Mistakes and Learn From Them.  No leader is perfect, and mistakes are inevitable. Own up to them quickly, take responsibility, and outline what you’ll do differently moving forward. This humility demonstrates integrity and fosters trust.

Behaviors That Undermine Trust and Credibility

1. Overpromising and Underdelivering.  Don’t commit to more than you can deliver, especially in your first 90 days. Unrealistic promises can erode trust quickly.

2. Acting Without Understanding. Jumping to conclusions or making changes without context can alienate your team. Take the time to listen and learn before acting.

3. Avoiding Difficult Conversations.  Trust requires honesty, even when it’s uncomfortable. Avoiding tough conversations signals a lack of accountability and weakens your credibility.

The Long-Term Benefits of Trust and Credibility

1. Stronger Team Dynamics.  A foundation of trust encourages open communication, collaboration, and mutual respect.

2. Enhanced Influence.  Credible leaders are more likely to gain buy-in from stakeholders, enabling them to drive meaningful change.

3. Sustainable Success.  Building trust early creates a culture of support and alignment that sustains long-term results.

In your first 90 days as a new executive, trust and credibility aren’t optional—they’re essential. By listening, delivering results, and modeling authenticity, you’ll build a foundation that enables you to lead with confidence and impact.

Quote of the Day: "Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships." – Stephen R. Covey

Question of the Day: What’s one action you can take this week to strengthen trust with your team or stakeholders? Share your thoughts in the comments—we’d love to hear from you!

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with new executives to sharpen their leadership skills contact me to explore this topic further.

How do you build and keep trust?

Roadshow Ready: Showcasing Your Team’s Work to Drive Strategic Success (New Executive Series 3/4)

As a new executive, building relationships and elevating your voice are just the beginning. The next step is taking your leadership to a broader audience through a "roadshow." This isn’t about self-promotion - it’s a strategic opportunity to showcase your team’s contributions, align efforts with the company’s vision, and gain organizational buy-in. By sharing your team’s work and vision, you position yourself as a results-driven, collaborative leader.

Here’s why roadshows are essential for new executives and how to execute them effectively.

1. Aligns Your Work with Strategic Priorities. Roadshows help you demonstrate how your team’s goals directly contribute to the organization’s key objectives. Leaders at all levels need to see that your efforts are advancing the broader mission.

2. Increases Visibility and Credibility.  By sharing your team’s work across departments, you raise awareness of your contributions and establish yourself as a forward-thinking leader. As Herminia Ibarra notes in Act Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader, visibility is essential for leadership impact.

3. Builds Organizational Buy-In.  A well-executed roadshow fosters alignment and collaboration, ensuring stakeholders understand how your team’s work supports the company’s success.

How to Structure an Effective Roadshow

A roadshow isn’t just a series of meetings - it’s a carefully planned communication strategy. Use this framework to ensure your roadshow resonates:

1. Clarify Your Goals.  Before you begin, define what you want to achieve. Are you introducing your vision? Showcasing team successes? Building support for an initiative? Be clear about your objectives to guide your messaging.

2. Understand the Company’s KPIs.  Align your roadshow content with the company’s strategic priorities. Research key performance indicators (KPIs) and goals, and connect your team’s work to these metrics. For example: “Our work on [project X] supports the company’s goal of [specific KPI], enabling us to [specific outcome].” Share measurable outcomes to demonstrate your team’s impact. For example, highlight progress against KPIs, cost savings, or customer satisfaction improvements.

3. Tailor Your Message for Each Audience.  Different stakeholders care about different things. For senior leaders, focus on strategic impact and ROI. For peers, highlight collaboration opportunities. For your team, emphasize how their work aligns with the company’s vision.  Most importantly, keep the information concise and impactful.  Respect your audience’s time by focusing on high-impact content. Use visuals like slides or dashboards to simplify complex information.

4. Share Your Vision and Progress.  Use the roadshow to paint a compelling picture of your team’s goals and contributions. Outline the “why,” “what,” and “how” of your vision:

·       Why: The purpose behind your work.

·       What: The key initiatives and progress so far.

·       How: The ways your team will continue driving results and contributing to the company’s success.

5. Incorporate Storytelling.  Facts and figures are important, but stories make your message memorable. Share examples of your team’s successes or impactful moments to create an emotional connection with your audience.

6. Invite Feedback and Collaboration.  Position your roadshow as a two-way conversation. Ask for input, listen to concerns, and seek ideas for collaboration. This approach builds trust and strengthens relationships.

7. Follow Up with Action.  After each meeting, send a follow-up email summarizing key points, thanking attendees for their time, and outlining next steps. Following through shows professionalism and reinforces your message.

The Benefits of Going on a Roadshow

1. Strengthens Strategic Alignment. By connecting your team’s work to organizational priorities, you ensure your efforts contribute to the company’s success.

2. Builds Cross-Functional Relationships. A roadshow fosters collaboration across departments, breaking down silos and opening doors to future partnerships.

3. Inspires Your Team. Showcasing your team’s contributions boosts morale and reinforces their connection to the company’s vision.

A roadshow is your chance to connect, align, and inspire. By showcasing your team’s impact and vision, you’ll build trust, credibility, and momentum. Leadership is about rallying others around a shared purpose—what message will you share?

Quote of the day: "Great leaders don’t just set the vision - they communicate it so clearly that it becomes a shared purpose. – John C. Maxwell

Question of the day. How can you tailor your message to ensure your team’s vision resonates with stakeholders at every level of the organization?  Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you!

The next blog in this series 4/4 will focus on strategies for building trust and credibility. 

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with new executives to sharpen their leadership skills contact me to explore this topic further.

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Elevating Your Voice in Executive Meetings (New Executive Series 2/4)

For many new executives, speaking up in high-stakes meetings, especially with more senior or influential audiences, can feel daunting. The fear of saying the wrong thing, being judged, overshadowing others, or disrupting the established dynamic often holds people back. Yet holding back can be just as risky. Staying quiet may limit your visibility, dilute your influence, and cause you to miss critical opportunities to contribute meaningfully and shape the conversation.

Let’s explore barriers to speaking up and actionable strategies to overcome these challenges.

1. Introverted Style.  Introverts often prefer to observe and process information before sharing their thoughts. While this approach can bring valuable insights, waiting too long might mean missing the window to share altogether, especially in fast-paced discussions.

Strategies to Overcome:

• Prep with Purpose: Take time before the meeting to think through the purpose, key outcomes, and crucial decisions. Drafting talking points, including pros, cons, and recommendations, to clarify your perspective in advance and anticipate any potential concerns.

• Leverage Timing: Aim to contribute earlier in the meeting when ideas are still forming, even if it’s to ask a clarifying question. This signals engagement and builds momentum for your voice.

2. Fear of Looking Foolish.  The inner critic pipes up: What if I say something wrong? What if I don’t sound like I belong in this room? What if what I say doesn’t resonate? This fear keeps many smart, capable leaders from contributing.

Strategies to Overcome:

• Shift from Fear to Possibility: Thought leader Susan Jeffers, in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, advises reframing discomfort as a doorway to growth. Speaking up opens new opportunities silence never will.

• Own Imperfection: Brené Brown’s research highlights that vulnerability is a strength. Even if your idea is not perfect, contributing shows courage and commitment to the team.

3. Everything Has Been Said.  When others seem to cover the key points, it may feel unnecessary—or even self-indulgent—to add your voice. However, your unique lens remains valuable.

Strategies to Overcome:

• Shape the Flow: According to Adam Grant in Think Again, contributing early not only increases your visibility but also gives you the chance to influence the conversation.

• Enrich the Dialogue through Questions: If your key points have been addressed, ask a thoughtful question that deepens the discussion or offers a new angle. Questions demonstrate active listening and intellectual curiosity.

4. Deference to Experienced Leaders. Being new or less experienced can spark self-doubt when surrounded by seasoned executives. But your fresh perspective is an asset, not a liability.

Strategies to Overcome:

• Leverage Newcomer Insight: As Harvard Business School’s Frances Frei and Anne Morriss explain in Unleashed, newcomers often bring fresh perspectives unclouded by legacy thinking. Use this to your advantage.

• Frame Your Voice:  Use language like “From a different angle…” or “Building on what’s already been shared…” to position your input as additive rather than disruptive, reinforcing collaboration while contributing your unique insight.

5. Nerves and Overthinking.  Anxiety can lead to second-guessing, or, once you start talking, rambling. Neither helps your message land with clarity.

Strategies to Overcome:

• Practice Conciseness: Jot down key points in bullet form before you speak to stay focused. Aim for clarity and brevity.

• Breathe and Pause: Slow, deep breaths and deliberate pacing can help calm nerves and ensure your message lands effectively.

When You Do Speak: Add Value with Intention

When you do contribute, focus on adding value to the conversation. Here are four powerful ways to do so:

1. Share an Informed Perspective

• Align with Business Priorities: Highlight how your points connect to both short-term and long-term business goals.

• Take a Systems View: Discuss how ideas impact other departments, stakeholders, or the broader organization.

• Offer Industry Comparisons: Share insights from within or outside your industry to provide context and innovative solutions.

2. Ask Strategic Questions.  Questions can:

• Clarify others’ thinking.

• Identify hidden challenges or opportunities.

• Guide the conversation toward actionable outcomes.

3. Take a Facilitator Role.  If the conversation becomes chaotic or stuck:

• Summarize key points: “Here’s what I’m hearing…”

• Propose structure: “Should we park this item and revisit it later so we can cover the rest of the agenda?”

• Propose action: “What feels most important to move forward, and who will take the lead?”

4. Champion Others. Acknowledging and building on others’ ideas fosters collaboration and trust. For example: “I really appreciate Jim’s idea because it prioritizes our stakeholders in innovative ways.”

·       Amplify Contributions: Echo and expand on valuable ideas by connecting them to broader goals or providing additional context.

·       Recognize Effort: Highlight when someone’s contribution moves the conversation forward. For example, “Susan’s suggestion provides a clear path for addressing this challenge effectively.”

Silence might feel safe in the moment, but it’s a missed opportunity to build your reputation, influence decisions, and create meaningful connections with colleagues. By preparing, practicing, and shifting your mindset, you can make your voice heard and elevate your presence in executive meetings.  Your voice is your power—use it to lead with confidence.

Quote of the day: "Speak Your Mind, Even If Your Voice Shakes.” – Maggie Kuhn

Question of the day. What steps can you take to reframe fear of speaking up as an opportunity for growth and connection? Comment and share below; we’d love to hear from you!

The next blog in this series 3/4 will focus on the importance of roadshows to make your team’s work more visible.

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with new executives to sharpen their leadership skills contact me to explore this topic further.

How do you add value in meetings?

How Is Your Executive Presence?

The term executive presence can be vague and mean different things to different people, like the concept of leadership.  Is it about how you show up by what you wear, how concise and convincing you are in meetings, how great you present, how much credibility you have, or how strong your decision-making and strategic thinking skills are?

When you ask a group of managers who aspire to the C-suite what it takes to get there, they invariably mention executive presence, even if they may not be clear on what it means.  In a survey conducted by Coach Source, Dr. Brian Underhill shares that from a manager’s perspective, 42% of people who seek a coach want to develop their executive presence.

So, what are these “make or break” factors in considering whether to promote somebody into the upper leadership rank?  Executive presence is not just about one or two factors, such as how you look or dress, but about the whole person.  It may seem like some people either have it or not, but they likely worked hard to achieve it, and it can be developed with intention.  Executive presence, or I would extend the concept to also include leadership presence is about inspiring confidence in others because of character, capabilities, and reliability.  These leaders can handle complex and unpredictable situations, make tough decisions quickly, and hold their own with talented and strong-willed team members.

The Bates Executive Presence Index, a research-based, scientifically validated assessment measures executive presence according to 3 big categories: character, substance, and style.  I’m going to borrow aspects of that framework and include my categories based on commonalities from clients I’ve coached on this topic.

Components of Executive/Leadership Presence:

1. Character.  Arguably one of the most important is about the personal traits and values that define you.  Two key components include:

·      Integrity - Acting authentically, transparently, sincerely, and in accordance with your actions and beliefs.  You live up to ethical standards because you care about doing the right thing for yourself and others, even when it is unpopular.  You are credible, trustworthy, professional, dependable, and know how to keep your promises.

·      Humility - Part of being humble is being self-aware – you have a good sense of your strengths, weaknesses, and the impact that you want to make.  At the same time, you know you do not know it all, so you seek out diverse perspectives and feedback, you listen inclusively to others, and you believe that all people have worth regardless of title or position.

2. Substance.  This relates to depth and overall maturity and can be split into practical wisdom and emotional intelligence.

·      Practical Wisdom – Having those hard skills and competencies in getting the job done.  You also exercise good insight, judgment, vision, strategic thinking, and collaborative skills in bringing teams and stakeholders aligned and along with you as you achieve results.   

·      Emotional Intelligence – You show calm and balance when under pressure because you know how to manage your own emotions.  You do not have erratic and unpredictable outbursts or become emotionally unhinged when you clash with others or receive pushback on your ideas; instead, you use your emotional strength to understand the situation better.  You are also attuned to others’ emotions because you listen, ask questions, factor in other perspectives.   You show care and build great relationships because you can read the room, receive data, and make pivots to fit the moment better.

3. Style – This is about how you present yourself and how others see and experience you quickly, if not immediately.  It is the first impression.  Two critical aspects include presence and effective communication.

·      Presence – This is more than the right clothes, firm handshake, eye contact, or voice projection; it is about exuding confidence, being calm in hectic times, and adapting your demeanor to serve the situation better.

·      Effective Communication – Relates to talking with intentionality.  You are clear, brief, direct, and speak with authority.  You do not bog others down with the details or open the floodgates and blast them with information; you know how to get to the bottom line swiftly.  You use your communication to empower, inspire, and bring out your best.  That may entail providing a forum where others feel safe, expressing themselves, asking questions, and feeling stretched in their growth because of your high expectations in their development and support. 

Like many intangible leadership traits, these skills can be grown, especially if you have a baseline level of self-confidence and a willingness to deal with unpredictable situations that come with the territory at the executive level.

Let’s jump into some things you can do to develop executive presence:

1. Skill build.  Understand where you want to go, assess your starting point with your current skill set, determine the new proficiencies you will need, and pick one capability to grow.  You can raise your awareness by reading about it and then practicing the skill.  Perhaps, you want to begin with style and specifically your public speaking.  You want to stand and deliver confidently, clearly, and concisely to large groups, answer questions effectively by maintaining curiosity and not becoming defensives, and handle pressure calmly.  You can start with the headline, provide some more details, and hold space for others to jump in with questions, then go deeper on topics that interest them.  Being comfortable with releasing some control means that they can drive the conversation, and you can handle whatever comes your way.  Speaking in shorter bursts is helpful because it is more of an exchange and not a lecture.

2. Get support from others. You can work with a coach to get clear on who you are, what you want to work on, what it will take to work on it, and be held accountable along the way.  You can also work with advocates, managers, peers, colleagues, mentors to let them know that you are actively focusing on this one thing.  If they have tips or suggestions and can be mindful of sharing feedback when they see you doing the behavior, you can gain their support for your growth.  Receiving helpful feedback from them can allow you to adjust along the way.

Expressing your executive presence is unique to each person.  You make an impression through the values you bring to the organization, the results you deliver, the way you connect, and how you communicate your points.  It is a worthy skill to invest in because it can lead to more career advancements and opportunities.  When you lead with character, substance, and style, you can positively influence and inspire greatness in others. 

Quote of the day: “How you act (gravitas), how you speak (communication), and how you look (appearance) count for a lot in determining your leadership presence.” -CEO Sylvia Ann Hewlett

Q: How do you define executive presence?  What’s one essential feature of it?  Comment and share below; we would love to hear from you!

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to help develop their executive and leadership presence, contact me to explore this topic further.

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